How to begin the Seduction Process: Eye Contact
by Michael A. Thomas

This question comes up quite a bit:

Should you approach a female from her blind-side or should you always approach at an angle where you can make eye-contact first??

Here’s my take on it:

You always want to try to look at women in her eyes before approaching her. It’s one of the first steps on the seduction game board. Sometimes though, you don’t always have that luxury. In those cases where she is in her own world, you have to somehow delve into her world.

How do you do that you say? You focus on the moment. That’s the easiest way to approach.

For example, if a woman’s in the store looking at cereal, she’s obviously thinking about the one she wants. An easy approaching would be asking her about that cereal. What she likes about it. The odds are in your favor for a few reasons:

1. Everyone’s favorite topic of conversation is what’s going on in their own life. If you ever notice, the best conversationalists are the people who are the best listeners. She to talk about herself. Let her.

2. Most men talk very randomly, using pick up lines or gimmicks. Now, that’s not to say you can’t be fun and spontaneous, but you want to always think about the INTERACTION first and foremost.

And always remember:

If she asks questions about you, she’s interested. You don’t need to read any body language signals or learn and NLP techniques to understand this concept (although those techniques are good). A lot of guys focus on making her laugh and obtaining the number. That means nothing. If you maintain eye contact, speak clearly, and in a smooth manner, you’re on the right track.

Seduction 101: 5 tips for improving your conversation skills
by Michael A. Thomas

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts on forums from men who feel they lack the confidence in conversation skills, especially from a lot of guys in college. It made me think a lot about how the dating game has changed and growing up in generation Y (of which I’m apart of). I would like to make an assessment on it, and begin to bring about dialog on the subject:

With the advent of email, text messaging, instant messaging, MySpace, Facebook, AdultFriendFinder, etc., the world has become tremendously connected electronically; at the drop of a hat we can reach just about anyone we like.

On the flip side, we have become decreasingly disconnected emotionally. Society as a whole, my generation especially, has used social interactions almost exclusively as a business transaction. Most conversing that goes on is a means to an end. This has been especially true in the male/female dynamic.

When I see men posting, expressing their lack of confidence in talking to women, I believe it has a lot to do with a combination of those two things: They haven’t had a great deal of conversation with the opposite sex face to face, and their only interaction with women is because of their attraction to them.

Combine that with a fear of rejection and I can only imagine how many guys cringe at the thought of talking to a woman, specifically one they are interested in.

I have a few tips when you feel you are having troubles conversing with women:

1. Get yourself out of the mindset that men want sex more than women. Women have a clitoris, which is 100% dedicated to sexual arousal. No man has any body part that is 100% dedicated to that function. Also, women can have multiple orgasms; men cannot. Combine those two things and women are just as sexual as men, if not more. Women are taught to downplay their sexuality in fear of society calling them loose, a slut, a ho, etc.

2. Practice having conversation with women of all types, especially very attractive women. You may want to befriend a few dimes as platonic friends. This works well in so many ways because it will give you practice in talking to very attractive women, which makes you more comfortable around them. You will gain more confidence, and women will notice this and be intrigued by it.

3. Remember, conversation is a two way street. If the woman you are talking to has sub-par conversation, you have the right to end the conversation. Do not excuse it and say, “…but she’s beautiful.” That will hurt you immensely in the long run. Just because a woman looks good, does not mean her personality is excusable.

4. Value yourself as a man/Have options. Have a host of hobbies and interests to occupy your time. Women can be one of them, but don’t make it your life’s goal every day.

5. Relax, and have fun with it!!! You only get better by practice. And of course, practice makes perfect.

Now get out there and start talking!!