Seductive Traits of the “Bad Boy”
by Michael A. Thomas

Arrogant, macho, selfish – these are a few works to describe the “Bad Boy”. Bad Boys treat women like disposable objects, while they’re clamoring to be his next lover. Women love them, and men loathe him.

Most women when asked what they look for in a man will give the textbook answer of the nice guy with a sense of humor that will treat her well. Meanwhile, she swoons for that swaggering, cocky man who doesn’t return her calls.

Strange, isn’t it?

Bad boys put themselves first, acts with reckless abandon, and treat women terribly. Yet women flock to these men in herds.

Why?

A Bad Boy exudes independence, wild masculinity, and steadfast confidence. These characteristics — especially confidence — are an aphrodisiac for women. The response from women to these guys is instinctive, and purely emotional.

Just as men are turned on by femininity in a woman, women also respond to overt masculinity. What basically happens is that she’s having a gut reaction to his confidence and male strength, while blocking everything else out of her mind.

So the caveat is to learn to take the Bad Boy’s negative qualities and harness them for you in a positive manner. This way, you’re not completely changing who you are, but enhancing it.

Here are some of the seductive qualities of a Bad Boy:

Confidence
Bad Boys always assume women want them – they have no idea what the word insecure means. Your attitude should be that you’re the one in demand, not women you are talking to.

Hidden Emotions
Remain a mystery and don’t let women know what you’re thinking. Keep them guessing. She won’t be able to figure you out, which makes you more appealing.

Furthermore, make sure everything you say has a purpose. Don’t volunteer information. Simply answer a question if asked.

Low tolerance
Do not tolerate any BS from a female. When she tries to test you, tell her to act her age. Do not be afraid to say no, stand your ground, or walk away from a situation.

Independence
Never change who you are to impress a woman or in the hope that you’ll get her into bed with you. Occupy your time with your own life and your own interests. Make plenty of time for your buddies as well. Your mind-set should be: “I am who I am — if you like me, fine; if you don’t, so what?”

Aura
Bad Boys are all about seductive confidence and women appreciate confident lovers. So don’t be afraid to let your natural masculine sexuality shine. This doesn’t mean you ogle at females all day, but you should be comfortable in letting a woman know you’re attracted to her without being a jerk. And when it comes time, make sure you know what you’re doing in the bedroom.

Scarcity/Mystery
For women, guys who are too available are not attractive. Bad Boys are coldly independent — they aren’t desperately hovering around women, hoping to get some attention.

People want what they can’t have, and women are no different. So make yourself busy and scarce. Be an unpredictable, mystery man. Be a challenge — let her do some of the chasing.

Being too nice will ultimately hurt you in the end. Putting women on pedestals, agreeing with every word they utter, and paying for female company are things Bad Boys don’t do — because women see this as “weak”.

Be decisive in your words and actions; never second-guess yourself. voice your opinion and don’t worry about offending others.

Bad Boys may be arrogant and selfish, but they are good examples about attracting and seducing women. By observing a few of these typical Bad Boy traits, you can learn to use them to your advantage in seduction.

How to begin the Seduction Process: Eye Contact
by Michael A. Thomas

This question comes up quite a bit:

Should you approach a female from her blind-side or should you always approach at an angle where you can make eye-contact first??

Here’s my take on it:

You always want to try to look at women in her eyes before approaching her. It’s one of the first steps on the seduction game board. Sometimes though, you don’t always have that luxury. In those cases where she is in her own world, you have to somehow delve into her world.

How do you do that you say? You focus on the moment. That’s the easiest way to approach.

For example, if a woman’s in the store looking at cereal, she’s obviously thinking about the one she wants. An easy approaching would be asking her about that cereal. What she likes about it. The odds are in your favor for a few reasons:

1. Everyone’s favorite topic of conversation is what’s going on in their own life. If you ever notice, the best conversationalists are the people who are the best listeners. She to talk about herself. Let her.

2. Most men talk very randomly, using pick up lines or gimmicks. Now, that’s not to say you can’t be fun and spontaneous, but you want to always think about the INTERACTION first and foremost.

And always remember:

If she asks questions about you, she’s interested. You don’t need to read any body language signals or learn and NLP techniques to understand this concept (although those techniques are good). A lot of guys focus on making her laugh and obtaining the number. That means nothing. If you maintain eye contact, speak clearly, and in a smooth manner, you’re on the right track.

Seduction 101: 5 tips for improving your conversation skills
by Michael A. Thomas

I’ve been seeing a lot of posts on forums from men who feel they lack the confidence in conversation skills, especially from a lot of guys in college. It made me think a lot about how the dating game has changed and growing up in generation Y (of which I’m apart of). I would like to make an assessment on it, and begin to bring about dialog on the subject:

With the advent of email, text messaging, instant messaging, MySpace, Facebook, AdultFriendFinder, etc., the world has become tremendously connected electronically; at the drop of a hat we can reach just about anyone we like.

On the flip side, we have become decreasingly disconnected emotionally. Society as a whole, my generation especially, has used social interactions almost exclusively as a business transaction. Most conversing that goes on is a means to an end. This has been especially true in the male/female dynamic.

When I see men posting, expressing their lack of confidence in talking to women, I believe it has a lot to do with a combination of those two things: They haven’t had a great deal of conversation with the opposite sex face to face, and their only interaction with women is because of their attraction to them.

Combine that with a fear of rejection and I can only imagine how many guys cringe at the thought of talking to a woman, specifically one they are interested in.

I have a few tips when you feel you are having troubles conversing with women:

1. Get yourself out of the mindset that men want sex more than women. Women have a clitoris, which is 100% dedicated to sexual arousal. No man has any body part that is 100% dedicated to that function. Also, women can have multiple orgasms; men cannot. Combine those two things and women are just as sexual as men, if not more. Women are taught to downplay their sexuality in fear of society calling them loose, a slut, a ho, etc.

2. Practice having conversation with women of all types, especially very attractive women. You may want to befriend a few dimes as platonic friends. This works well in so many ways because it will give you practice in talking to very attractive women, which makes you more comfortable around them. You will gain more confidence, and women will notice this and be intrigued by it.

3. Remember, conversation is a two way street. If the woman you are talking to has sub-par conversation, you have the right to end the conversation. Do not excuse it and say, “…but she’s beautiful.” That will hurt you immensely in the long run. Just because a woman looks good, does not mean her personality is excusable.

4. Value yourself as a man/Have options. Have a host of hobbies and interests to occupy your time. Women can be one of them, but don’t make it your life’s goal every day.

5. Relax, and have fun with it!!! You only get better by practice. And of course, practice makes perfect.

Now get out there and start talking!!